Sometimes, when I see relationships which are very complex, I wonder how they became that way. I think about how many words must have gone into making that complexity, how many feelings, thoughts and reactions have gone unrecognized and unvalidated within the simplicity of communication to turn the space into a tangled mess of hurt, verbal arrows that are sent from defensive bows behind walls of personal protection.

Arguments can start so small, and before you know it, they have become so big that finding a solution feels completely unimaginable and unattainable. And yet behind the words, feelings, thoughts, reactions and complexity there sit the desire and need to be seen, heard, understood and accepted, and yes, loved and validated, ..."just because".